Stop Selling to People Who Were Never Going to Buy

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Overview

Duct Tape Marketing Podcast cover art featuring guest Rob Snyder for the episode "Stop Selling to People Who Were Never Going to Buy," hosted by John Jantsch.

Most founders spend years chasing customers who love their product but never buy. In this episode, John Jantsch talks with Rob Snyder, a serial startup founder, Harvard Innovation Labs fellow, and operating partner at Grix VC, about the pull framework: a four-part model for identifying the customers who are practically guaranteed to buy because reality has already done the convincing for them.

Snyder walks through why traditional sales advice gets the physics backwards. Instead of trying to persuade prospects to want a product, he argues the real job is spotting people who already have an unavoidable project, a list of options that fall short, and nowhere else to turn. He and Jantsch dig into how this shows up in discovery calls, why chasing pain points is a trap, and how founders and service providers alike can use this lens to qualify leads faster and stop wasting energy on the wrong-fit prospects.

This conversation is for founders, consultants, and marketers who are tired of long sales cycles and prospects who nod along but never close. Snyder’s approach offers a practical way to rethink lead qualification, sales conversations, and even content strategy around real buyer readiness rather than guesswork.

Guest Bio

Rob Snyder is a serial startup founder, a fellow at Harvard Innovation Labs, and a former McKinsey consultant who graduated from Harvard Business School. He serves as an operating partner at Grix VC and coaches early-stage founders through his Finding Pull program. Snyder built the pull framework after years of struggling to convert customers who claimed to love his product but wouldn’t buy. He is the author of the new book, The Power of Pull: What You Need to Know About Customer Demand to Build a Successful Startup and Why Most Founders Get It Wrong.

Key Takeaways

  • The pull framework has four conditions: an unavoidable project, a timeline that can’t be delayed, existing options that fall short, and a real inability to solve the problem without you.
  • Pain points alone don’t predict buying behavior. What matters is whether a pain point has become an active priority.
  • Forget the product or service entirely when qualifying a lead. Focus only on the customer’s situation and whether they’re stuck.
  • Personas average across your customer base and can mislead you. A single strong case study from your best customer is a better design target.
  • The best discovery-call opener is simple: ask why they took the call. It surfaces the pull framework without asking for it directly.
  • When a prospect doesn’t have pull, don’t try to create urgency. Point them toward the trigger event that would make them a fit later, and move on.

Great Moments

  • [01:49] – Snyder describes the phone call that broke open his thinking about why customers weren’t buying
  • [03:56] – The four conditions of the pull framework are introduced: project, unavoidable, list of options, limitations
  • [06:12] – Snyder explains why founders need to forget their product entirely when qualifying leads
  • [09:10] – Why personas can mislead founders, and why a single best-customer case study works better
  • [13:38] – Snyder shares his goal of reaching 75 percent certainty on fit within the first five minutes of a discovery call
  • [19:02] – The single best discovery-call question for testing real buyer pull

Memorable Quotes

  • “If you don’t have pull, it would be weird if you bought. You just have other priorities, or your existing options are good enough. Nothing I do is going to change that.” — Rob Snyder
  • “The first step is to totally forget your product or service. Totally ignore it for a second and focus exclusively on the customer.” — Rob Snyder
  • “What matters is when, not if it’s a pain point, but if it’s a priority, if it’s something they’re actually trying to do something about.” — Rob Snyder
  • “I would much rather let reality do the convincing than me.” — Rob Snyder

Resources

John Jantsch (00:02.075)

You know, most founders keep marketing to people who say they love the idea but won’t buy. My guest today spent years figuring out why, and his answer cuts against most of what’s written about marketing and sales today. Hello and welcome to another episode of the Duct Tape Marketing Podcast. This is John Jantsch. My guest today is Rob Snyder. He’s a serial startup founder, fellow at Harvard Innovation Labs, an ex-Makkense consultant who graduated from Harvard Business School. He’s built

Multiple companies serves as an operating partner at Grix VC and coaches early stage founders through his finding pull program. We’re gonna talk about his new book, The Power of Pull. What you need to know about customer demand to build a successful startup and why most founders get it wrong. How did you get all of that on a book? Rob, welcome to the show.

Rob Snyder (00:54.25)

Thank you, it is the longest title. They pay me by the word.

John Jantsch (00:56.433)

Awesome. So you d at least for my reading of of your materials, you kind of went through the whole playbook yourself, did everything the experts said, still couldn’t get your customers to buy something that they told you that they thought was awesome. So how long did that go on and and what kind of finally broke it open for you?

Rob Snyder (01:20.834)

Yeah, was two years of the worst day of my career happening and being beaten every successive day where everything made sense on paper, seemed like they should buy it. They would nod in sales calls and then they wouldn’t buy. I just thought I was incompetent, uniquely incompetent until one day I got a phone call. Again, two years in, we’re just…

John Jantsch (01:23.921)

Ha ha ha.

John Jantsch (01:36.187)

Mm-hmm.

Rob Snyder (01:49.027)

The ego that one gets out of McKinsey and Harvard Business School had been crushed to smithereens at that point. And I got a phone call from a potential customer who I had tried to pitch to when he said, hey, yeah, I have no idea what you were trying to sell me. It wasn’t relevant to me. But I’ll pay you to do X for me. And I was like, all right. And that’s when it started working.

John Jantsch (02:11.94)

Yeah, so so how long I mean, you know, like all good consultants, you have a framework. it has, you know, four conditions and all those good things, but how long did it take you to kinda before we get into them, I mean, that was like a light bulb moment, but but that’s not like exactly where like all four things tumbled into place, right? So, I mean, how did you kind of unearth by trial and error these elements that you then put together in your framework?

Rob Snyder (02:39.104)

Yeah, it was when that customer called me that something clicked in my head and that it wasn’t really about my product. Like that was the first big aha moment. And it had nothing to do with my product at all. It was about something that was going on in their world that they were trying to do but couldn’t do. And that thing made my product relevant or not.

And so that was the first big light bulb moment. And then we launched our second product, which also went zero to a million really fast. And so I was like, wow, I’ve really got this now. And then a couple of my friends brought me into their startups to help them do the same thing. And so as I kept trying to apply what I had learned, it started developing from kind of an artisanal, like, I don’t know, I’ll just, let me try to copy paste exactly what worked for me.

into something where I was able to more understand the physics of it. And then the framework came way later.

John Jantsch (03:37.541)

Yeah, yeah.

John Jantsch (03:44.432)

So let’s let’s talk about the the four conditions. project unavoidable list of options and limitations. So put that together for us now that we have names for

Rob Snyder (03:56.525)

Yeah, so that creates the pull framework. The pull framework together defines a person who would be weird not to buy your product. Everybody else who does not have pull would be weird to buy your product. And so the four characteristics are the project. They have some project. They have something they’re trying to do. In marketing, you might think of this as a job to be done, project on to-do list, kind of same thing. That project has to be something they can’t delay. They can’t do it.

John Jantsch (04:10.068)

Yeah.

Rob Snyder (04:25.772)

you know, in six months or a year, they’re totally fine waiting or not doing it at all. So it has to be unavoidable. That’s the second one. But just because they have something they have to do today doesn’t mean they need you. So they have to be in a state where the list of options they have considered or tried are not good enough. They have limitations. And if all four of those things are true, they’re trying to do something that they are unable to do with their existing options, then you show up.

and they rip the product out of your hands. And that’s how the world works, I have found.

John Jantsch (05:03.673)

Right, so you you intentionally I think mentioned product several times in that description. Would this same approach really apply to, say, a consultant who’s selling a service of some sort?

Rob Snyder (05:16.6)

Totally, totally. Yeah, I’ve accidentally developed a consultancy out of this and it turns out it applies exactly the same to it. what I found is that product, people selling products think that it’s about the product. People who sell services think it’s about our cool frameworks and all of those, and our expertise and all the stuff behind it. And it’s still all about the customer’s poll.

John Jantsch (05:44.262)

So so is the first step we have to stop caring about our product, caring about our service. I mean, I I don’t mean that facetiously. I mean kind of like admit they don’t care about what we do. They want the problem solved or whatever it is. I mean, d is that does it take that leap first? Because I see it all the time. I mean, you know, you look at any web page and you know, ninety percent of it’s, you know, describing the product. so I mean, is that the first leap or mindset change that has to happen?

Rob Snyder (05:57.154)

Yes.

Rob Snyder (06:12.622)

The first step is to totally forget your product or service. Totally ignore it for a second and focus exclusively on the customer. And what is that situation they’re in where they’re trying to do something, they’ve considered different options and those options aren’t good enough. So they are stuck. And you just focus on that without even thinking about your product because it, for some reason is or service.

John Jantsch (06:17.414)

Yeah.

Rob Snyder (06:41.038)

If you or I just start thinking about our product, what we’re going to do is we’re going to describe that situation that we would like them to be in, not the situation they are actually in.

John Jantsch (06:50.449)

So a lot of marketers, I I wouldn’t say this is an advanced case, but maybe it’s a step forward, have realized that if they can point out pain points, you know, that that kind of sucks somebody in to say, yeah, okay, you can fix that thing for me. How is this maybe a step beyond that?

Rob Snyder (07:12.792)

So pain points are a thing that, especially in startups, we are told to go looking for pain points. Because if you find pain points, then they’re going to buy. I’ve just, my own startups, a bunch of friends startups have found that we’ve done hundreds of customer interviews where we find everyone’s nine out of 10 pain point. We have them rake it on a scale out of 10, and then nobody buys. And what you’ll learn from that experience is that most people who have pain points

are okay continuing on with their pain points, even if they are big and important pain points. So what matters is when, not if it’s a pain point, but if it’s a priority, if it’s something they’re actually trying to do something about. If you conflate those two, you are in for a world of hurt.

John Jantsch (07:45.626)

Mm.

John Jantsch (08:01.573)

Yeah, like that little hole in the ceiling that water forced through doesn’t really bother me anymore. I’m probably not gonna fix that, right? So Yeah

Rob Snyder (08:08.872)

Exactly, yeah. I have it where the sun comes through from 10am to 1pm every single day and blasts me in the eyes and it’s just like not a problem. Like it’s yes it’s a problem, yes it’s a pain point, but I just shift a little.

John Jantsch (08:19.417)

Yeah.

John Jantsch (08:23.117)

Yeah.

Again, marketers have been very trained to to build personas and and, you know, understand buyer behavior and what how do you actually take it that step of like somebody would be crazy not to buy your I mean, how do you find them?

Rob Snyder (08:40.642)

Hmm. Most businesses that are not zero to one already have found them. You have a bunch of customers already. If you look across your customer base, you have some people who bought really fast and are awesome and some people who have not and are not. They’re just not a good fit for you. And what we tend to do is we tend to design our marketing, our business around the average.

John Jantsch (08:55.727)

Mm-hmm.

John Jantsch (09:00.731)

Yeah.

Rob Snyder (09:10.4)

of all of them, which is what a persona is, right? We’re combining a bunch of different characteristics of different people into, what I’ve found is instead of doing that, you focus on your best customer and you think about that customer’s case study, that customer’s poll, when they bought and you just design for that case study.

John Jantsch (09:14.533)

Right, right, sure.

Rob Snyder (09:35.758)

rather than an abstract persona, a concrete case study. And you just think about your business as, we’re just going to repeat that case study a bunch of times and find people who look at that case, we’re going to use that to sell, we’re going to use that forever.

John Jantsch (09:51.74)

So would you would if you were if I were gonna bring you into my business and and admittedly we have a lot of people that are not startups necessarily, they’re businesses that have been going for a while. But quite frankly, they have that mix that you just described. You know, t I I would venture to say twenty, thirty percent of most businesses have customers that they’d like given the choice, they would punt. but you know, they keep showing up and they keep serving them. would you if you walked into a business like that,

Rob Snyder (10:14.35)

Yes.

John Jantsch (10:21.457)

How would you sort of work backwards to to find like, here are your poll people?

Rob Snyder (10:26.06)

Yeah. So what I mostly focus on are if you’re doing sales calls, that’s really, really useful. And especially if you record the sales calls. So what I do is we say, okay, talk to me about your best customers. And in fact, send me their sales calls and then send me sales calls of people who have not been quite as good customers. And what you can do is you can actually listen to the sales call using the pull framework to say,

John Jantsch (10:32.463)

Mm-hmm. Yeah. Right.

Rob Snyder (10:55.404)

Okay, what was the project on their to-do list? They’ll often tell you, we just don’t listen for it. What was the project on their to-do list? Why was it unavoidable for them then? What options had they looked into? Why weren’t those options good enough? And you start to compare and contrast those really good customers with the other ones. This is not like a Harvard PhD activity. It is really just look at these two different calls, compare and contrast with the pull framework.

John Jantsch (10:59.545)

Mm-hmm.

John Jantsch (11:18.875)

Yes.

Rob Snyder (11:23.968)

And then you start having some very interesting conversations on the back.

John Jantsch (11:28.961)

Would you even go as far as to say that if you that that you actually would use this as a filter to some degree? You know, because we we have people that show up all the time. It’s like I need marketing. Can you do marketing? Well, yes. But here’s how we do it, here’s who we serve, here’s who we can bring value to. And and I but but I know a lot of people also just, you know, somebody shows up and says they want marketing, it’s like, okay, I’ll send you a proposal. would you say that that

that you would go as far as saying you should almost run some sort of poll exercise to to qualify somebody.

Rob Snyder (12:06.513)

100%. Just think of all of the pain that comes from working with someone who’s not your best fit customer. I’ve done this a bunch of times where I worked with a PR firm that was not specifically for startups. They were for like certain kinds of business and we just spoke past each other and we were both frustrated with each other at the end. There are so many cases of this where by being ultra specific, you often think,

John Jantsch (12:12.303)

Yeah, yeah.

John Jantsch (12:20.24)

Yes, yes.

Rob Snyder (12:33.76)

Well, I’m not going to have enough leads. I’m not going to have enough, you know, companies coming inbound. Well, actually, the more specific you are, the more people look at you and say, wow, you are for me specifically. And then they come inbound. And so you actually get more lead rich and you disqualify people who won’t be a fit, who won’t appreciate what you do.

John Jantsch (12:36.762)

Yeah.

John Jantsch (12:53.723)

So a lot of a lot of interactions, especially initial interactions, are can be very brief. you know, you have your short discovery call or maybe they even fill out a form or something that, you know, that that’s all the information you get. Do you have some tools, scripts, techniques that that actually help somebody? First off, I guess the work is they’ve gotta actually be able to identify, you know, who those people are themselves, so they know what they look like, right?

Rob Snyder (13:18.67)

Yes.

John Jantsch (13:21.605)

But then do you have once they start generating leads, do you have tools or techniques that that really allow somebody to to sift through that? Because a lot of times I I have discovered sometimes you don’t really know somebody’s gonna be a fit until you’re kind of down the road a bit.

Rob Snyder (13:38.743)

Yeah, we’re actually a lot of the companies that I work get to our goal is in the first five minutes of a discovery call to have 75 % certainty on that this person will buy and be a good fit. And so that’s, that’s the goal to work towards. There are ways to get there. What I, what I find is that first of all, it is, you have to have your pull framework filled out for what your best fit customer is. You just have to know that if you don’t, then it’s just going to, you’re just not going to know.

John Jantsch (13:48.901)

Yeah.

Hmm.

John Jantsch (14:03.814)

Yeah, right.

Rob Snyder (14:08.394)

Once you have that filled out, then the beginning of the call, of a discovery call, is asking them to fill out the pull framework for you. Now, not actually pulling it up and telling them, fill this out for me, but it’s just saying, why’d you take this call? What are you hoping to get out of this? And they will often start to fill out the pull framework, and then you ask some clarifying questions there. And you don’t ask it from the perspective of like, all right, I want to convince you that you should buy.

John Jantsch (14:18.137)

Hmm. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Rob Snyder (14:37.366)

You ask it leaned back saying, I’m not sure if I’m a fit for you. You tell me.

John Jantsch (14:42.543)

Yeah, yeah. So w when you kind of went from struggling to, you know, thinking, hey, I got this figured out, did it change how you sell sold from that point on? So so just describe how that change happened.

Rob Snyder (14:53.068)

Yes. a hundred percent.

So I had the wrong theory of sales. was totally backwards on sales. had a physics upside down, which I thought when I was just starting out that, okay, you build a good product that offers really a ton of value, solves big problems. And then what sales is, is that sales is a way to convince people to want your product and buy your product. But the core physics, if we use those terms are…

I convince you to buy. And what I realized, through lots of pain, was that I will never convince you to buy. If you don’t have poll, it would be weird if you bought. You just, you have other priorities, or your existing options are good enough. Nothing I do is going to change that. And so what I’ve realized is that sales is about basically them convincing me to let them buy.

John Jantsch (15:29.339)

Yeah, it’s

John Jantsch (15:39.057)

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Rob Snyder (15:56.575)

or said differently, them trying to do something and being stuck. That’s what causes them to buy. And they will buy my product if I just get them unstuck.

John Jantsch (16:13.211)

So the the unavoidable step probably does some of the heaviest lifting, right? in the in the in the process, it seems like. what is what is what does that trigger actually look like? How do you find it? you know, g are there ways to find it like even before, you know, a sales call, like somebody somebody’s actually given the signal on LinkedIn?

Rob Snyder (16:36.076)

totally, totally. So it’s gonna be different for each company. I’ll give an example. There’s a company that sells to nonprofits that I know that sells them a reporting tool that they can use to raise money from donors. Well, when is that, when do they have an unavoidable project around needing to improve their fundraising? Well, it’s often when they’ve been trying to fundraise, maybe they’ve hired some.

and they are struggling to fundraise. And so all of the startups content that goes out is about that situation. Everything they post is about, so they attract people who are in that situation. So that’s the goal is I don’t wanna talk to people who don’t have you. So everything I’m putting out into the universe is to bring those people.

John Jantsch (17:25.105)

Mm-hmm.

John Jantsch (17:29.947)

So let’s say I’m in a halfway through a sales call and I re like they don’t have pull yet. Do I try to change that in somehow or is it literally like, hey, come back when you when you got it?

Rob Snyder (17:45.036)

One of the most liberating things that founders and business owners tell me when they apply poll is that when somebody doesn’t have poll, they stop having to think about them. That you stop having, because think about, you have to convince them to change their priorities. That’s really hard to do. And then you have to convince them when they have a new priority to choose you over other options that they haven’t looked into. And it’s like, okay, that’s…

John Jantsch (17:47.203)

Yeah.

John Jantsch (17:57.158)

Yeah.

John Jantsch (18:05.253)

Yeah.

Rob Snyder (18:14.959)

That could happen, but then you’re have to convince them to use your product or service and you’re gonna have to convince them to value it. You’re gonna have convince them of all of these things. I would much rather let reality do the convincing than me. And so, yeah, you just say, okay, cool. It seems like you’re totally fine. One thing you might look for is XYZ happening. When one of those things happens, that might be when you’re a better fit.

John Jantsch (18:42.577)

So if somebody’s listening to this and they’ve got a sales call like this week or right after they listen to this, what’s one question they should add to that call to test whether a prospect has real pull?

Rob Snyder (18:57.923)

Hmm

Rob Snyder (19:02.863)

I would say, can I give you two? Is it okay if I give you two? Okay. The most important question to ask in a sales call is at the very beginning. So thanks so much for taking the conversation. Why did you take the call today? That question will almost always fill out the poll framework for you.

John Jantsch (19:05.115)

Sure, you bet, you bet, you bet.

John Jantsch (19:20.785)

Mm.

Rob Snyder (19:22.721)

Then, once you have some of the poll framework filled out, my favorite question to go to is, is, so maybe help me understand. I’m hearing that you’re trying to do this. You basically recap poll. But maybe I’m wrong. you know, maybe you help me understand. Is this something you actually need to do right now? And you can’t use your other options on? Maybe help, help, help me understand that. And people say when they first do that,

It’s like, feel like I’m convincing them not to buy. And what you’re really doing is you’re just testing if poll is actually there, if it’s actually real.

John Jantsch (19:55.77)

Right, right.

John Jantsch (20:01.531)

You know, though I suspect there is also a little psychological I don’t know what the right word is, pull behind that idea of maybe you’re not ready. So wait a minute, I’m ready to solve this problem. And isn’t there a little bit of that? It that that that pushing away kind of makes it more attractive.

Rob Snyder (20:17.974)

that-

Rob Snyder (20:22.255)

That is not the intention or the cause of it. It may be an unintended benefit of it, but what you do is what you don’t want. One of the things I always have in my mind in a sales call is imagine two people who are out to dinner where one of them thinks it’s a date and the other doesn’t. Like how poorly that can go. And that’s not what, you don’t want that.

John Jantsch (20:25.606)

Yeah.

John Jantsch (20:43.845)

Yeah. That’s a great analogy.

Rob Snyder (20:51.307)

in your sales call, where you think they’re likely to buy and you’re going to convince them to buy, and they don’t. And so that’s the purpose of this is just for us to understand, do they actually need help?

John Jantsch (21:04.325)

Yeah. It it really, you know, all the sales training and techniques and questions in the world are great, but again, it’s that it’s that work ahead of time, isn’t it? The that you know, going into that conversation, knowing what you’re looking for to to the point where, you know, I’ve been doing this 30 years. I mean I can have a conversation with somebody for about thirty seconds and I have a pretty good sense of whether or not it you know it’s gonna be a great fit. And I think people, you know, you do get better at that.

Obviously, but I think there’s a lot of work to be done to to get to that point, isn’t there? Yeah. Right. Yeah, yeah. so Rob, I again I appreciate you taking a few moments to stop by. Is there some place you’d have people connect with you? Obviously find out about about the book, but I’m guessing you have a whole series of of tools and workbooks and sheets that

Rob Snyder (21:36.771)

Yeah, and hopefully the book helps people not have to take 30 years to get to that intuition like you’ve developed. Like, that’s the hope. But yeah, it took me way too long as well.

John Jantsch (22:01.75)

can help them master the pull framework.

Rob Snyder (22:05.209)

Totally, yeah, robsneider.org is where you can find everything.

John Jantsch (22:09.197)

Awesome. Well again, I appreciate you stopping by and hopefully we’ll run into you one of these days out there on the road.

Rob Snyder (22:14.959)

Absolutely. Great to meet you, John.